Unresolved Trauma: The Movie

Watching Malcolm and Marie has really messed me up which is unfortunate because It is 12:35AM and I was about to go to bed.  It made such an impact that I had to write something to expel some of the bad energy.  I think great art leaves a lasting impression and this definitely has done just that. It makes you think about what you were just put through and will give you a taste of anxiety if you don’t already know what that feels like.   I haven’t felt this amount of cinematic uneasiness since sitting through Uncut Gems last year.  Prior to that, I related anxiety to the helicopter scene in Goodfellas and just within the last year alone, these two films have made Marty’s movie feel like missing a math problem on a third-grade timed test.  I am not sure what that says about our culture or maybe my viewing habits.  In any event, Malcolm and Marie is reminiscent in tone to Marriage Story and Revolutionary Road.  Truth be told, I like to listen to couples fighting at Target as much as the next guy but this movie really made me feel uncomfortable. 

John David Washington and Zendaya do so much arguing, good lord back and forth and back and forth.  Just when you think one person got the other one with a good point and walks away, here comes the other one marching back for more a half a minute later.  Although the writing feels very stage-like at times, it is great as is the dialogue but it is the acting sells it.  It is superb and both characters come out as unbearable assholes, then vulnerable and then back.  You just want them to end the argument but they keep saying hurtful things to each other and then when you think they made up guess what?  Here comes Zendaya bringing up something dumb and hiding what the real issue is.  It’s like witnessing a fight between your parents or friends where you just want them to stop but they keep going and your stomach starts doing cartwheels and in an effort to cause a distraction you say, “Hey remember Freshen Up gum with the liquid inside?”  They both smile for a bit and reminisce and one says something that reminds the other about a different but related issue and then they start arguing again and then you’re just sitting in the backseat in a fetal position going crazy.  No?  Ok

The writing and music and dialogue and the acting all come together to make this an immersive experience.  It is a great film but I am not a masochist and I shan’t be watching this again.  I think everyone can relate to some form of past toxicity that these two characters embody.  Not only relate to it but feel it in a visceral and sensual way that may or may not bring back memories of past battles and unflattering personality traits.  This couple is facing issues that are buried in pride and bullshit that impedes their way of communicating with one another.  It is very clear they have outlived their use for each other and they need to separate although they probably will not because they’re so used to the craziness.   I say that to say this; this movie made me have flashbacks to arguments I never even had.   I would not watch this with a partner for fear of starting an argument.  You’ll be watching together and then suddenly one of you has a scene resonate and think, “Yeahhhhh” in a John Mulaney or old timey voice.  In short, watch this movie, go through the feelings but do it alone because unlike the couple, you love your partner (hopefully),  Oh yeah, Happy Valentine’s Day.


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